Joy of OUR life-ADIT

Oh yes it's been really a long time I visited my blog.Possibly more than a year I guess... Well yes!!! We are blessed with a BABY BOY -Adit!!!!!It was indeed a roller coaster ride for us this past 1 year or 10 months... Initially it just started visiting my doc for annual checkup which in turn got converted into this wonderful news...Everything was running smooth or it seemed to be when I was diagnosed with GD in my 28th week which was not getting controlled by diet and I was put on insulin and was indeed a painful procedure.In all these hurdles, I have to thank( I don think thanks would do any justice to these ppl, maybe I am indebted to these ppl all throughout my life)GOD, my Husband Pradeep( he was a rock support for me especially during the last stages of my pregnancy), my mom(she is the BEST mom ever anyone could ask for), my brother Rajesh Annaiya(he is actually my Hubby's cousin's husband but more than a blood relation to me and the best bro in the world)and last but not the least my Doc who just kept me going in all my tough times !!!!!!!Indeed now,when I look at Adit's face and when he locks his eyes on to me and smiles, I am filled with tears of happiness in my face that I introduced a wonderful living soul to this world and is worth even the slightest pain , trouble and the comments passed around. I had put on a little bit of weight during my pregnancy considering my pre-pregnancy weight it was indeed a little on a higher side, but some educated ppl or claim to be went even to the extent of asking whether I was having twins and even commented that I was eating too much.But all bygones are bygones!!! Maybe its the motherhood which is making me talk, all of a sudden my temper has reduced and my patience has increased.If someone would ask me whether I would undergo all the pain and trouble again , my instant answer would be "YES".Earlier it use to be anything for Pradeep now its anything for Adit and Pradeep.I know every mom in this world feels the same way as I do!!!Love you Adit... I owe everything in my life to my lil prince and all the wonderful people who went beyond their way to make this journey memorable throughout my life!!!

NORMAL!!!!

I watched this movie called ALL ABOUT STEVE today .It’s not the usual or the “normal” kind of movie which everyone would enjoy and relish, but I liked it. It changed completely my perspective about children who are not whom we define as “Not Normal”. I will explain the quoted text a little later. Actually the story starts about a lonely, eccentric person who is an expert in crossword puzzles and designs them for a local newspaper and her parents set up on a blind date.
She likes the guy and thinks he is key to being normal, as she is constantly accused of not being normal and the guy hates her and after a series of events she comes in touch with a small deaf child who actually mimes to her and asks “why do you want to be normal?” and “What is normal?” and requests her to stay the way she is and not to change. I loved the message as we constantly isolate people,children, claiming that they are not normal.
This left me wondering as what is normal, just because certain people follows certain norms, guidelines we expect every child to be same and thrust upon the procedures and often isolate them as being “not normal”. I am also reading called “7 habits of highly effective people” (obviously it was forced on me by my hubby, hated it until I started reading now unable to close the book), where the author admits that he use to force his second kid who always was behind the other ones. They thought something was wrong with him or thought he was not normal and started protecting him, encouraging him where the child never needed it in the first place. The child just needed time, and when they realized it and gave him the space he required, the child progressed like any other child.
Maybe this book completely changed my outlook they way I saw the movie, if I hadn’t read the book, I would have been bored by the movie. But coz of the book was able to see the different and powerful message of the movie.
I just wish I don’t continue the trend and see things as they are, not being judgemental about people and force the same on the future generations. Must read book”7 Habits of highly effective people” and if you like it its indeed a good movie to see!!!

DREAMS!!!Passion of Life!!

It has been long since I visited my blog. But there are quite a few reasons for that. One there is nothing interesting that happened which kind of grabbed my attention.Second reason will be updated later once it comes to reality.

I was also seeing a particular speech given by Professor Randy Pausch from Carnegie Mellon University. Surprisingly  he passed away in 2008 after losing his battle against tumor in his liver.He had 10 tumors in his liver. I was initially not interested but when my hubby forwarded the link,and when I started to see it, I was impressed by his speech.

The professor says to everyone to go ahead and achieve their dreams and also enable others to achieve theirs.He had a dream of floating in zero gravity.It might sound childish now,but of course it was his childhood dream which he made it a reality when he was an adult.I suppose everybody has these kind of dreams which has been neglected for a long period of time.

The main thing the professor implied to us is to pursue what we dream, make that our passion,work towards it sincerely by placing your mind and soul and we are sure to achieve it.I believe and support it more than 100% as I have experienced it personally.I am a PMP( for who those who dont know what PMP is, it is Project Management Professional certification given to Project Managers).

It is a rumor which went around stating that people who have tremendous experience were unable to clear it in the first attempt.Well, because of my husbands(his name is Pradeep) support and encouragement( he is my best critic) I decided to go for it.People kind of prepare for 7 months to a year for that certification.I had the audacity to go ahead and finish it in 1 month.So I fixed the date as 30th April 2010 and I was leaving to India on May 2nd.

I am very aggressive at times, in-spite of all the work at home,shopping, socializing I put my soul into it and I felt all the forces of nature was with me(might sound dramatic but that's the truth)and supported me and I cleared it in my first attempt. When I look back and think about it, I really don't remember how everything happened .That was my dream.Thanks to my wonderful husband for supporting me on that.I wouldn't have done it without him!!Now I am trying to give 100% support to a very special person in my life for their dream to come true( I will update it in the future when it comes true!!)

WISH ME LUCK!!!

WOMAN

I just read this quote of Maya Angelou somewhere and kind of caught my attention and thought should just keep it safe :-)

"Now you understand

Just why my head's not bowed.

I don't shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.

When you see me passing

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It's in the click of my heels,

The bend of my hair,

the palm of my hand,

The need of my care,

'Cause I'm a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That's me."

- Maya Angelou

or maybe as she says I AM A PHENOMENAL WOMAN indeed!!!

Stand up to CANCER!!!

Cancer... every one knows about this deadly disease which does not have a cure.Little did I know that every 60 seconds somewhere someone dies of this disease, 1 in 2 men and 1 in 3 women get affected.I was seeing this programme called stand up to cancer which was organised by 3 television networks here in US.They are not promoting to prevent the disease but rather this one was focussed in funding the research teams to find a cure of this disease."Do you know how it feels to walk on a bed of thorns?? Thats how you feel when you get cancer" I was touched by these words and this was how I was introduced to the suffering which millions of cancer patients undergo every second of their life, I was able to relate to the pain of actually walking on thorns and started my repeated donation to cancerindia.org which mainly focusses on Indian children.We as adults can withstand any amount of pain but how about a new born or a 1 month old baby or 1 year old kid who just steps into the world??.My mom could not bear me suffering from a common cold 1 day.She atleast calls 3 times to check on how I am doing? Hats off to the patients, near and dear ones who actually support them in every possible way and fight against this deadly one and survive it.We(my husband n I) donated for this generous cause and I think thats the most humble way we can give a helping hand to those who actually are fighting this disease in reality. If you all think you do want to help please donate through this website:https://www.standup2cancer.org/Default.aspx as its NEVER TOO LATE!!!

No JOB coz you are an MBA

As always, I was reading a skit written by an MBA graduate who was offered a low paid job and was rejected just coz he was holding a B-school MBA degree.Well analysing the situation, an MBA is aimed at achieving and integrating the managerial disciplines and creating mangers capable of making ethical and viable decisions in the interconnected world.So for this practically, B-schools have to focus on electives rather than core courses. A small comparison between the international B-schools like Harvard and MIT who offer an average of about 10 core courses and 100 electives which gives the students complete independence of diversity to face the competition in the fast paced world.However the top Indian B schools offer an average of 25 core courses and 60 electives and focuses mainly on classroom teaching rather than practical education. This has been a FLAW through generations and every generation seems to accept the FLAW including mine.And if Kellogg is known for Marketing, Harvard for General Management, our B-schools are known for MBA's to say NO(My manager in DELL was from IIM-Ahmadabad where he use to always quote this"IIM's are taught to say NO").I do not know what my post will do but I always believe at the bottom of my heart that everything starts with a little effort, and that little effort of mine is to create awareness among people(maybe a small group) so that there might be a start to save the future generations or maybe it is time to migrate from MBA to the next emerging field of education business!!

Nuclear Family Vs Joint :-))

Well, this thought struck me when I was a reading a article today in The Hindu, where a person in his old age was explaining the difficulties they see in their old age.I do not know which is beneficial, but sometimes I feel as if the joint family system has a better score in every way especially in the old age. Each and every person was assigned a responsibility depending on their age and skill.Parents looked after their childern when they needed protection and the latter looked after their parents when they needed help. The nuclear system probably is a winner in the young age but I guess inspite of all the flaws joint famiy system is a clear winner in the old age.A similar incident in US, when my husband and I were having lunch in an Indian restaurent where a family sat beside us and I guess the parents had come from India.They were ordering food and when the food arrived, the son and the daughter in law immediately grabbed their own and started having it and only the grand dad's food had not arrived, and when he asked the son replied stating"you did not order any appetizer so thats why you did not get it" the grand dads face sunk and immediately grand mom offered her share to him.Have we become so mechanical that we even forgot our basic table manners, or have we become so western that we don think about our parent's needs or the sacrifices they have done for us.I immediately placed my parents in that situation was able to realise what would have gone through in their mind. But the parents did not utter even the slightest of dissatisfaction.May be thats the difference and thats why they are respected for what they ave achieved.This particular incident left a great impact in me. In the intial stages of my marital life I also wished for a joint family coz I wanted someone to guide me in that part of life which was completely new to me n I was totally inexperienced to handle anything in life:-))..I just wish the younger generation realises the irony of old age and to the extent of possibily for a greater care and concern for the old.