Ahead of the Game

I read a real life story of a kid who was born with one arm, he just had his right arm and his another arm did not grow right from his birth from a parenting book.I was amazed to see the kids ability to fight through everything in his life.The kid was even insulted by his grandparents who in turn sent him a blanket as a gift for his 2nd birthday.The boy's ability to fight through the circumstances was highly motivating and now he plays for his high school basketball, base ball team . Now my thoughts revolve around parents who want their kids to be ahead of the game always.Are we doing justice to the kids by thinking or thrusting upon our desires on them.Now I am also a mother of a 3 month old, I have my own fears of bringing up a child.How easy or difficult it is going to be? I know its gonna be a life long responsibility, commitment.But I did get some clarity after reading the story. These kids teach us how to handle every issue in life.They are unable to do so many things but they are not bothered about it.They are just so happy that they are able to do achieve something in life.This kid actually changed my notion about life that you do not play to win rather you play because you are happy playing the game.Even before Adit was born I took a vow when I knew I was having a baby boy that I will not raise him the way I was raised.Coming from a conventional family I was raised with a lot of restrictions and had to fight my way through every single thing I desired. I decided that this will not be the case with Adit.He will lead his life the way he wants to and he will do things which will make him happy. Hope I continue to keep my promise and not fall under the category of conventional parents who judge a child based on the wins he/she gets in their life.

Joy of OUR life-ADIT

Oh yes it's been really a long time I visited my blog.Possibly more than a year I guess... Well yes!!! We are blessed with a BABY BOY -Adit!!!!!It was indeed a roller coaster ride for us this past 1 year or 10 months... Initially it just started visiting my doc for annual checkup which in turn got converted into this wonderful news...Everything was running smooth or it seemed to be when I was diagnosed with GD in my 28th week which was not getting controlled by diet and I was put on insulin and was indeed a painful procedure.In all these hurdles, I have to thank( I don think thanks would do any justice to these ppl, maybe I am indebted to these ppl all throughout my life)GOD, my Husband Pradeep( he was a rock support for me especially during the last stages of my pregnancy), my mom(she is the BEST mom ever anyone could ask for), my brother Rajesh Annaiya(he is actually my Hubby's cousin's husband but more than a blood relation to me and the best bro in the world)and last but not the least my Doc who just kept me going in all my tough times !!!!!!!Indeed now,when I look at Adit's face and when he locks his eyes on to me and smiles, I am filled with tears of happiness in my face that I introduced a wonderful living soul to this world and is worth even the slightest pain , trouble and the comments passed around. I had put on a little bit of weight during my pregnancy considering my pre-pregnancy weight it was indeed a little on a higher side, but some educated ppl or claim to be went even to the extent of asking whether I was having twins and even commented that I was eating too much.But all bygones are bygones!!! Maybe its the motherhood which is making me talk, all of a sudden my temper has reduced and my patience has increased.If someone would ask me whether I would undergo all the pain and trouble again , my instant answer would be "YES".Earlier it use to be anything for Pradeep now its anything for Adit and Pradeep.I know every mom in this world feels the same way as I do!!!Love you Adit... I owe everything in my life to my lil prince and all the wonderful people who went beyond their way to make this journey memorable throughout my life!!!

NORMAL!!!!

I watched this movie called ALL ABOUT STEVE today .It’s not the usual or the “normal” kind of movie which everyone would enjoy and relish, but I liked it. It changed completely my perspective about children who are not whom we define as “Not Normal”. I will explain the quoted text a little later. Actually the story starts about a lonely, eccentric person who is an expert in crossword puzzles and designs them for a local newspaper and her parents set up on a blind date.
She likes the guy and thinks he is key to being normal, as she is constantly accused of not being normal and the guy hates her and after a series of events she comes in touch with a small deaf child who actually mimes to her and asks “why do you want to be normal?” and “What is normal?” and requests her to stay the way she is and not to change. I loved the message as we constantly isolate people,children, claiming that they are not normal.
This left me wondering as what is normal, just because certain people follows certain norms, guidelines we expect every child to be same and thrust upon the procedures and often isolate them as being “not normal”. I am also reading called “7 habits of highly effective people” (obviously it was forced on me by my hubby, hated it until I started reading now unable to close the book), where the author admits that he use to force his second kid who always was behind the other ones. They thought something was wrong with him or thought he was not normal and started protecting him, encouraging him where the child never needed it in the first place. The child just needed time, and when they realized it and gave him the space he required, the child progressed like any other child.
Maybe this book completely changed my outlook they way I saw the movie, if I hadn’t read the book, I would have been bored by the movie. But coz of the book was able to see the different and powerful message of the movie.
I just wish I don’t continue the trend and see things as they are, not being judgemental about people and force the same on the future generations. Must read book”7 Habits of highly effective people” and if you like it its indeed a good movie to see!!!

DREAMS!!!Passion of Life!!

It has been long since I visited my blog. But there are quite a few reasons for that. One there is nothing interesting that happened which kind of grabbed my attention.Second reason will be updated later once it comes to reality.

I was also seeing a particular speech given by Professor Randy Pausch from Carnegie Mellon University. Surprisingly  he passed away in 2008 after losing his battle against tumor in his liver.He had 10 tumors in his liver. I was initially not interested but when my hubby forwarded the link,and when I started to see it, I was impressed by his speech.

The professor says to everyone to go ahead and achieve their dreams and also enable others to achieve theirs.He had a dream of floating in zero gravity.It might sound childish now,but of course it was his childhood dream which he made it a reality when he was an adult.I suppose everybody has these kind of dreams which has been neglected for a long period of time.

The main thing the professor implied to us is to pursue what we dream, make that our passion,work towards it sincerely by placing your mind and soul and we are sure to achieve it.I believe and support it more than 100% as I have experienced it personally.I am a PMP( for who those who dont know what PMP is, it is Project Management Professional certification given to Project Managers).

It is a rumor which went around stating that people who have tremendous experience were unable to clear it in the first attempt.Well, because of my husbands(his name is Pradeep) support and encouragement( he is my best critic) I decided to go for it.People kind of prepare for 7 months to a year for that certification.I had the audacity to go ahead and finish it in 1 month.So I fixed the date as 30th April 2010 and I was leaving to India on May 2nd.

I am very aggressive at times, in-spite of all the work at home,shopping, socializing I put my soul into it and I felt all the forces of nature was with me(might sound dramatic but that's the truth)and supported me and I cleared it in my first attempt. When I look back and think about it, I really don't remember how everything happened .That was my dream.Thanks to my wonderful husband for supporting me on that.I wouldn't have done it without him!!Now I am trying to give 100% support to a very special person in my life for their dream to come true( I will update it in the future when it comes true!!)

WISH ME LUCK!!!